Rules to please your partner in bed. Let's be honest, we are all obsessed by the quality of our sexual performances. Everyone wants to boast about his or her succes in bed. It is a fever that has infected the majority of men and women, especially in the western world. Anxiety of failure could be a definite influence in this perspective. But in most cases you don't need very much to satisfy your partner in bed and build up the reputation of a Don Juan. We have tried to list some rules - helpful advice - that could help you to feel more confident in bed and to enjoy your love life even more. This applies to you and your partner.

• It's very important that you aren't drunk. Being tipsy is acceptable, but don't drink 12 beers and try to make love, because it won't work. Being drunk can also cause other problems such as getting the clothes off. There's much of a chance that you will vomit and that you pass out.
• The next rule is intended for the gentlemen. Remember to be responsible and know what you're getting into before it's too late. Nothing is worse than enjoying each other's company and then asking one of the "no-no" questions, such as, "When was the last time you took your contraception?" Be a gentleman and just use a condom.
  
• Did your mom ever tell you to wipe that smirk off your face before you're stuck with it? Well, I believe that rule should also apply during sex. Some facial expressions can be really sexy, but be aware that don't insult your partner. There's much of a chance that he / she loses confidence.
  
• Sex is not a time for chitchat. Partners want to enjoy each other and it's hard to concentrate when the mind wanders. Talking dirty is acceptable if both partners agree, but that's were the conversation ends. Don't descrive how much homework you have or how you would name your first baby.
• Keep the phone silent. There's always that one person in a packed theater who forgets to turn their phone on silent and then proceeds to answer it and have a weird conversation. Out of courtesy for everyone involved, turn it on silent and don't answer it. Vibrate mode will merit extra points if it's used in a kinky way.
• Don't yawn or, even worse, fall asleep. Sleeping is for the three-hour biology lab, not  for the steamy hot sex with your lab partner.
• Don't be a two-hump chump. Again, this is another rule for the men. Women buy expensive lingerie for men's visual pleasure. If women spend 20 minutes trying to get out of the extravagant contraptions without ripping them, men owe them at least that long.
• Remember the golden rule: 'Ladies first'. This is a rule for all aspects of life. For example: the first to walk through the door are ladies.
  
• Don't stop to go to the loo. Don't eat spicy food, because then you will drink a lot and this will hinder the sex. Unless, both of you agree.
  
• Remember who you're with. Nothing is more embarrassing than screaming the wrong name, such as your sister's, or a random name including "mom."
• Foreplay is important. That's why women talk about it so much. And guess what? Apparently the man is blamed for not spending enough time on foreplay, and wanting "to get to the point" too fast. Doesn't a couple consist of 2 people? Try to be available and creative during the foreplay, but don't forget to ask your partner for cooperation. He or she will surely be happy with an active role in this important phase.
• Don't overwhelm your partner with compliments. Both men and women like to be complimented and loved, but a huge quantity of compliments does not always get you where you want to be.
• If your partner gets the impression he or she is been taken for a fool - whether that is the case or not - he or she will take some distance, possibly creating the opposite effect.
• Many assertive men and women will appreciate it when their partner makes them laugh, even in bed. Try to, without exagerating, bring some fun in your relationship, and in your bedroom.
• Try not to take everything seriously, but look at sex as a fun exciting game and not as a competition where you can be better than his or her exes. You will discover that your partner will appreciate this positive attitude.
• Take care of your body. Nothing is less sexy than a man or woman who doesn't take care of his or her body. Keep your body clean, pay attention to your nails, hair, your skin, and wear clean underwear. It isn't necessary to make any furhter remarks.
  
• Don't just think about yourself in bed, but try to be a bit altruistic and let your partner have an orgasm first. An orgasm is for a woman a much more emotional and sensitive sensation than for a man. Usually she needs more time to reach an orgasm. If you let her have an orgasm first, you can give her the necessary attention and she won't feel ignored. Afterwards, you can enjoy your own pleasures, and she will gladly compensate for the attention you have given her.
• Experiment without exageration. New situations and positions are always welcome but don't exagerate. Don't give your partner the impression that you don't respect him or her. Make sure your partner doesn't feel used even when you have been together for a longer time. A gentleman is a gentleman even in bed.
• Don't be afraid to ask what your partner likes. It might be a bit difficult at the start of a relationship, and he or she might not have the courage to tell, but it is important your partner is free to tell you what he or she prefers and is not afraid to tell you his or her phantasies.
• Leave the super macho or bitch attitude at home. You don't need it and it will only damage the relationship.  Paying attention to your partner and a healthy dose of creativity are the key to succes in bed.
• Don't compare your partner with your exes. That is the beginning of the end.
• Don't be ashamed  to talk about your insecurities. Maybe not in bed or even in the bedroom where coversations get a deeper meaning, but just at daytime, during a walk in the forest, or any other good opportunity you get. Nobody is perfect and he or she will definitely appreciate your honesty. You are not rivals, but partners in bed . Remember that!

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